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  1. Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

    Written Check-in and Self Connection Exercise

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/25/2020

    Trainer Tip: Tap into feelings, needs and requests for greater self connection with the six steps in this worksheet.

  2. However indirectly expressed, any judgement or criticism is about the person's own thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests.This awareness can help you take people's comments less personally, and give you options: silent self-empathy, standing in your truth, contact and curiosity, and honest expression.

  3. I Want to Leave When Facing Anger

    I Want to Leave When Facing Anger

    Arnina Kashtan

    Video · 4 minutes · 12/12/2021

    Receiving anger from another can be a reactive trigger for many of us. In this brief segment, Arnina provides us a strategy for staying in the conversation instead of physically leaving.

  4. Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

    Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

    Inbal Kashtan, Miki Kashtan

    Learning Tools · 8 - 10 minutesd · 7/29/2010

    NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.
  5. Transforming Complaint

    Transforming Complaint

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/30/2021

    Trainer Tip: NVC-based social change naturally emerges from “a certain kind of spirituality”, a quality of spiritual clarity. Intuitions and impulses arising from spiritual clarity are more likely to support sustainable systems. Read on for how to bring more of this in, and ways to transform your complaint into commitment.

  6. The Highest Leverage For Effective Meetings

    The Highest Leverage For Effective Meetings

    Alan Rafael Seid

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/29/2022

    The highest leverage point for effective meetings is preparing with self inquiry. Before saying something, we can ask ourselves about who this is serving, what needs it serves to say it, if there is a request we want to make, how to make the request actionable, and more. If more people at meetings do this, it can reduce the overall number of tangents we experience at meetings.

  7. It’s All About Please and Thank You

    It’s All About Please and Thank You

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/3/2019

    Trainer Tip: People’s choice of words may be difficult to hear. In fact, we may feel downright aggravated by them. Whether we enjoy these statements or not, we can begin to recognize that behind each statement is a desire to meet needs, either by saying please or thank you. In this way, we are more likely to feel compassion because we have connected to their humanness. Listen for the please or thank you in your conversations today.

  8. Meeting Our Need for Support

    Meeting Our Need for Support

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/20/2019

    Trainer Tip: Asking for support may feel awkward and uncomfortable. In these moments, we may forget that everyone needs support. We may also forget that there may be many options available to us, even if what's available isn't our preferred source of support.

  9. Creating Your Experience

    Creating Your Experience

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/1/2020

    Trainer Tip: Only after we connect to our unmet need can we make sound decisions that will transform our experience. For example, if you feel bored, connect to your unmet needs (eg. need for understanding the relevance, etc) and then look for strategies that will meet them (eg. ask the speaker how this topic relates to our lives).

  10. Getting Our Need for Love Met

    Getting Our Need for Love Met

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/14/2020

    Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?

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