Six Ways That Support You Being Heard

When you don't have a sense of being heard you can apply skills to help you can interrupt cycles of reactivity and resentment, and create connection. Let's look at six ways that will support you in being heard. These are clarity about the topic and needs; supportive conditions; respect for autonomy; sharing your intention; attending to emotional security; and making clear requests. Read this...

Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

Effective and connected dialogue requires significant self-awareness, mindfulness, and skill. You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that. Read this article Keywords:...

Thrive Together

Thrive Together was a virtual fest dedicated to exploring how to thrive with each other, ourselves, our communities, and our planet: especially during challenging times. Purchase this MP4 video download and you will have access to 20 of the sessions! See below for the full list of topics and trainers: Alan Rafael Seid How to Serve the World in a Financially Sustainable Way Discover how to...

How to Use NVC with Talkative Friends

Apologizing in NVC Language

In this brief audio, Jim Manske uses a live situation to demonstrate how to use the NVC process in an apology. Jim starts by identifying the four steps to self-connection before expressing your apology: Identify what you are apologizing for Clarify your feelings associated with the situation Identify the need you were trying to meet Craft a statement that represents what you’d like to say to...

Transforming Painful Patterns

Common Obstacles to Success Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Here are common pitfalls: Trying to change a pattern while playing it out Focusing on changing a behavior, usually quickly and forcefully, without empathic listening to ourselves (our needs and feelings in particular) Grounding our motivation for...

Prevent Misunderstanding--One Simple Strategy

Misundertstandings can be painful. We can easily avoid this by checking what the other person understood from what we said, and ask the other person to do the same. Doing this is especially important when it comes to planning, shared decision-making, and when emotions are strong. Also, the more someone knows you, the more they think they already know what you mean -- which can get in the way of...

NVC Basics

Access this complete 6 session course Are you longing for more harmonious interactions at home and work? If so, then this prerecorded telecourse is for you! One of our most popular courses, Sylvia brings more than 25 years experience as a CNVC Certified Trainer to introduce the core concepts of Nonviolent Communication, leaving you grounded in the basics and ready to make transformative...

Integrating NVC

Access this complete 6 session course Does NVC seem like a good idea, but not practical in the real world? Do you feel frustrated when you find yourself in the same jackal scenario over and over again? This course will guide you toward integrating NVC into all aspects of your life. Provided in 6 parts, this course aims to deepen understanding about the arenas in which NVC operates. Once in a...

Truth as an Act of Love

Speaking the truth creates congruence, which creates trust, facilitating understanding and cooperation. Without truth there is no growth in our relationships and community. Without truth, we create growing resentment which subtlely and inevitably undermines relationships. If this is true, then what keeps us from speaking our truth? Many of us think that honesty will actually create more...